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Client: I think I’ve known for a while that I’m not fully aligned, but I’ve been afraid to admit it. It’s like I’ve built this version of myself that looks perfect on the outside, but inside, I feel disconnected.
Tori: Disconnected from what?
Client: From myself, I think. From the part of me that feels real, alive, and purposeful. It’s like I’ve been living on autopilot, doing what I’m supposed to do, but not what truly resonates with me.
Tori: Where does the fear come from? Why are you afraid to admit it?
Client: I think the fear comes from not knowing what I’ll find if I admit it—or what I’ll lose. If I let go of this version of myself, the one I’ve worked so hard to build, what if there’s nothing underneath? What if I can’t live up to who I’m supposed to be?
Tori: So you’re afraid that you, in alignment, won’t be enough?
Client: Yes, exactly. I’ve spent so long measuring myself by what I do, what I achieve, and how others see me. Letting all of that go feels like stepping into the unknown—and I don’t know if just me, without all the external stuff, will be enough.
Tori: For?
Client: For the people in my life. For the expectations I’ve internalised. But mostly, I think… for myself. What if I discover that I’m not who I thought I was, or that I’m not as capable or worthy as I’ve tried to be?
Tori: So the choice is that you stay as you are now, seemingly unfulfilled or misaligned, or you risk finding that missing piece and possibly end up disappointed?
Client: Exactly. It feels like a gamble. Stay where I am—comfortable but restless—or take the risk and maybe find something deeper… or nothing at all. But honestly, even staying where I am doesn’t feel sustainable anymore. It’s like the restlessness is growing louder, and I can’t ignore it much longer.
Tori: So do you have a choice about this?
Client: When you put it that way, it doesn’t feel like I do. It’s like I’ve been trying to hold everything together, but the more I resist, the more it feels like something inside me is breaking open. I think I’ve reached the point where staying the same is scarier than the risk of change.
Tori: It’s a good point to be at. Some people never get there.
Client: That’s true. I guess part of me is grateful to feel this, even if it’s uncomfortable. It means there’s something more waiting for me, right? Something I wouldn’t have seen if I stayed where I was.
Tori: For sure. So what feels like a priority right now?
Client: Honestly, I think the priority is reconnecting with myself—figuring out what’s true for me, not what I’ve been conditioned to believe or strive for. I need to slow down and listen, but I’m not even sure how to start.
Tori: In what area of your life do you notice the most that something feels off?
Client: I think it’s in how I spend my time. My days are full, but they don’t feel meaningful. I’m busy, but it’s like I’m just going through the motions. Even the things I used to enjoy feel… empty.
Tori: How do you spend your time?
Client: Mostly working or managing responsibilities. I’m constantly ticking things off a to-do list—work projects, errands, social obligations. Even when I have free time, I tend to fill it with things that feel productive rather than relaxing or fulfilling. It’s like I don’t know how to just be.
Tori: Be more specific.
Client: My weekdays are packed with work—meetings, deadlines, emails. After that, I usually squeeze in errands, like grocery shopping or organising things at home. Evenings are often spent scrolling on my phone or watching TV, but it doesn’t feel restorative—it’s more like I’m zoning out. On weekends, I catch up on more errands or meet with friends, but even that sometimes feels like an obligation. I rarely make time to just sit, reflect, or do something purely for myself.
Tori: What might happen if you sat and reflected? How might that feel?
