Category: Lesson
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Look Around You
Be mindful of what you ingest. The papers you skim, the books you read. The television shows, the news, the algorithm of desperate lives, subtly telling you that you are not enough, that you are not doing enough. Recheck your circle, ask yourself where there is still love, laughter, support, and where there is duty – no longer feeding your soul. Look to your plate, your cup, the once-loved and now-forgotten photos on your walls. Take time this weekend to notice, the world you are feeding, or forgetting to feed, to your soul.
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What’s wrong with me? vs. What do I need?
I couldn’t understand why when good things showed up, the gifts I had asked and wished for, they arrived arm-in-arm with shadows of overwhelm and fear. I couldn’t understand the anxious movements, the tightness in my chest. But what I did understand was my tools. So many tools. I used EFT to tap into the fear. NLP to travel deep, tracing old and warn paths, where maybe I had left stones unturned, trauma unearthed. I followed therapeutic routes into old truths – and lies – hoping to find something belonging to these new and pressing sensations. I tremored and I…
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It’s Stopped Raining
I had one of those moments the other day, that was so simple it slipped over into profound. It had been raining as I strolled down my local High Street, and I had my umbrella up. I was about to cross paths with a woman when she looked at me, smiled and said, “It’s not raining anymore”. Her smile was gentle, her voice low, but strong. Even as she uttered the words, I knew this was about more than the weather. And in that two second interaction she gave me an offering of wisdom that felt entirely intentional. We’ve…
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Journal Prompt – 40 Years
I realised today, that I could live another 40years. 40 years. Once you reach a certain age, time can feel more finite, so many more years known than to know. Tell me, if 80 or even 85, were your top number, the end of your ride, so to speak – how many years would you have left? Say it out loud. I may have _____ years left to live. How does it feel? What will you do? Go write.
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The Art of Being Yourself
There is a phenomenon that will occur in your life, it will descend on you unexpectedly and repeatedly. You’ll wake up one day and make a discovery. An insight so profound and yet so glaringly obvious that you’re unsure if you really have not noticed it before. It’s familiar, even if you cannot place it. Staring in your bathroom mirror, you’ll suddenly have the clearest vision you’ve ever had of yourself. And what you’ll see is this: A person who has arrived at this point in their life, utterly unconsciously. A person who has moved on an undercurrent of external…
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Night Sky
Meditative, I bid the universe, show me something beautiful. I needed nothing else, and so I gifted free reign to an experience of wonder. Show me, something beautiful. Immediately, night sky. I, standing level with it, penthouse view. Lights shining beneath, far, wide. Yellow, red, in windows, towers, streets. A galaxy of lives. My guides, they said, “This is what we see, this is the view we have. When you’re down beneath, thinking your problems are huge, confused about your next move, whether to leave a light [emotion, feeling, thought, action] on or turn it off, we’re…
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Say Goodbye To Problem Heavy Friends
This year, take the radical step of identifying the people in your life who are problem-heavy. People for whom most exchanges with you present as an opportunity to discuss problems they have no real intention of fixing. People who cannot see you clearly through their own looping story of self-pity. Stand strong in the knowledge that the problems you have are being worked on, and shared with a select few for whom the exchange of growth and recognition is mutual. Take less comfort in company that allows you to stay hidden. Company so self-indulgent that it asks you no questions,…
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From Healing To Healed
There comes a time on your journey when you have to switch from being ‘the one who is healing’ to ‘the one who is healed’. There is a moment, when regardless of your physical or emotional health, you have to eat, walk, dance, love, as though all former setbacks have completed their lessons, have spent their karma. Everything you do must be to honour the whole you who has won the trial, is freed from remand, is living as one who wishes never to go back. The path toward healing can be treacherous. It is long, winding,…
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You Have Got to Go All The Way
In coaching, you have got to go all the way. You have got to talk about the feelings, thoughts and experiences that present themselves. The ones that have you believing there is a choice, over whether or not they matter. To awaken the relationship with that part you so desperately want to heal, to grow, to birth, you have got to move through the fear of breaching the dam. You must reassess your dismissal of that which comes masqueraded and clothed in irrelevance and pointlessness. In coaching there are times to bear your soul, in order to heal your heart and your body.…
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Convoi Exceptionnel
On long trips I sometimes see vehicles with the words Convoi Exceptionnel written on them. Whilst the translation may not be very elegant, in French the words for me always evoke a sense of glamour and mystique. I wonder how different life might be if we each navigated the world clearly marked by how much care and attention must be taken with who we are and what we are carrying. What if the majesty of who we each are as individuals was given the space and time to fully express itself, without judgement. What if we all informed and forewarned…
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Human Design
I first came into contact with Human Design maybe about nine or ten years ago. I didn’t pay very much attention to it at all. If anything, I thought it was just another system, another mechanism someone, somewhere, had invented in order to profile and box people. It seemed like a lazy answer, a crutch even, for those needing to be told who they are. Human Design came in and out of my field of awareness a few times in the intervening years, but it wasn’t until 2021 that I really sat up and took notice. In fact, rather than…
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RSVP
I invite you to explore who you are without shame. To welcome the parts you have repressed and diluted. To step into the entirety of your body, the expressions you have buried for the safety of an illusion. I invite you to expect more from the people in your life, the ones you love and the ones you are yet to know. To understand that your standards are not an infringement on the people suitable to be in your world. I invite you to be happy, even as the world around you burns. To live your moments guilt free before…
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On Friendship
There are some friendships that evolve over time and others that end with hardly any time passing at all. Trust your first impressions of people; trust who you feel compelled to be when around them, and what parts of you are not welcome in the shared space. Pay close attention to the balance of efforts put into communication & mutual care for wellbeing. Some people in this life are meant to love you, others are meant to show you what love is not.
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Is This Spiritual Life Worth it?
There are times on your journey into self when you’re going to feel very alone. You’re going to feel like you’ve drawn the short straw and why, oh why, can’t you be less complicated? Why can’t you be like the sheep you see daily, who have not experienced the awakenings or downloads of self-knowledge that you have? You’re going to ask yourself if this road is worth it, if what you’ve had to give up, suffer, process so far, has been worth it. And as much as you will yourself to say no, as much as…
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Are Intrusive Thoughts A ‘Spiritual Issue?’
I’ve been part of a few conversations in the last year or so that have centred around intrusive thoughts. People have asked me whether I believe it’s a spiritual issue, if I think it’s inner demons that can be eradicated with the right approach, or if these troublesome thoughts are common to us all in differing degrees. As much as it’s not the definitive answer most seek, the truth is that the reason for one person’s intrusive thoughts can be light years away from the next person’s. Everyone’s emotional and mental makeup varies vastly, as does their history, relationship to…
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Where To Start On Your Spiritual Journey
There are multiple entry points into a life that consciously follows a spiritual path. For some, the route is one of enthusiasm and expectation, hearts so full with positivity that communion with higher planes of existence is the only means of release. For others it’s the extremities of trauma that will crack them open. It’s through the suffering and turmoil that they experience the metaphysical world opening up and calling them forth. Both these paths have their own challenges, but they can in a lot of ways be the most straightforward. Another third route into spirituality tends to…