Category: Lesson
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Dancing With Your Patterns
Instead of viewing patterns as unchanging reactions that have us careening from one disaster to the next, it’s helpful to see them as multi-faceted parts of ourselves. Ones that are in constant vibration, willing either to be left on course or interrupted. Imagine, if you will, yourself as the grand ballroom in which various parts of you dance. The choreography is created here, parts of you are moving to inner rhythms of experience; your own, your grandmother’s, your father’s. Some parts move wildly, freely, others seek always the perfect partner, feeling, pitch. Our patterns are dance partners we are courting,…
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“Give Me A Minute To Compose Myself.”
Where did we learn, that it is necessary to compose ourselves, to pull together the framework of a calm self that others are expecting to see? If we aim to have honest hearts, what stops us from speaking truer sentences, from stating our desires more accurately? Give me a minute, to repress everything I am naturally feeling in this moment, is what we really mean, everything my body needs to move from the inside outward. Please, would you just wait a couple of seconds, to allow me enough time to hide, to shield, to summon all the boundaries needed,…
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Start Asking Yourself The Right Questions
There is too much emphasis, in this realm, that is placed on certainty. Everyone wants to be sure they are doing the right thing; they want to be sure they are making the right decisions, that they have covered all possible scenarios of outcome. And even once they have used logic, emotion and intuition to its fullest extent, the question still remains, but am I sure? Here is a better question: Is it worth the risk? Here is an even better question: Will I survive and be able to cope, if the worst possible outcome occurs? There are no complications…
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On Men; Reconnecting Mind and Body
There’s a key piece of information you should have been taught as a young boy; a fact that once adopted, can vastly change the course of your relationship to the entire world around you. This is where I want to begin. I want to start not with a denial of your right to ask for help, a denial of your needs as compared to another gender, race or economic status. The place we instead kick-off from is the knowledge that all feelings held within your body and your mind, are valid. They are valid in that they reveal parts…
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Perception, Crossed Wires, Lost Friendships
I had an interesting experience today. I met with a man whom I had come to know through a mutual friend; I’ll call her Lucy for the sake of this story. I knew very little about the history of their friendship but was intrigued as to how they met. What I unexpectedly found out was that they no longer speak, that James and Lucy have gently parted ways and he at least was comfortable with the new distance between them. Without prompting, he revealed what had happened to end the friendship. And whether he was justifying the demise of it…
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We Are More Than What Separates Us
One of the biggest insults | crimes | untruths leaked into the human race is the illusion of separation. The belief that we are separate from each other to various and solid degrees; gender, skin, emotion, thought. These useful and convenient layers we use to identify ourselves will make life more manageable, only until we forget they are only layers, not a summation of who we are. Imagine believing the clothes you have on are what define you. Imagine believing they make you better or different from someone else. Maybe you don’t need to imagine so much, maybe it is more…
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Pinned Post: What is Emotional Mastery?
Emotional mastery is about more than control and it has nothing to do with perfection. Emotional mastery is about observation and conscious decision making. It’s about seeing the choices that show up in your reality; in the split second before stress does, in the moment before disharmony is expressed through an argument in your relationship, in the fraction of time before you reach for the drink, the drugs, the man/woman. Emotional mastery is primarily about a self awareness so potent, you cannot help but see the alternative choices in each state you find yourself. It is about learning to act from…
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Stop Negotiating
Stop hearing what your intuition is telling you and then rationalising it to suit what everyone else *might* want or need. You are royalty. You are sovereignty. Act like it.
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This is What is Standing Between Your Inspiration and Your Action
Inspiration. (I’m not good enough. I can’t do it. It’s the wrong time. I’m not ready. I need more training. I don’t have enough information. I don’t have enough support. I can’t do this on my own. I don’t know how. Now doesn’t feel right. I don’t want to upset her. He won’t survive without me. I don’t have enough money. It’s too expensive. I don’t have to rush. I don’t want to hurt them. It won’t work. It didn’t work last time. I’ve done enough.) Action. Stop making all that shit in the middle the end…
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Fear is Not Action. Do Something
Love to all the people participating in global meditations, group healings, positive heart based prayer, energy work, comedy, acts of service in the community, empowerment coaching, online breakthrough therapies, body movement, positive posting, self healing, future visualising, heart based caring, news OFF heart and mind ON living. When your fear is bigger than your positive action you affect the entire world. When your positive action is bigger than your fear, you help save everything that is meant to be saved. You are filled with immense power. Power that extends beyond reposting the words ‘stay home’. Power that extends beyond waiting…
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Don’t Feel Compelled to Match Misery with Misery
It’s not that I have nothing to say. It’s just that your entire conversation is based on misery.I don’t have anything to add to that.And in your current state, you have no capacity to hold my light.Will I share my past with you? Yes, as a cautionary tale. Yes, if I think you’re ready to hold it. Yes, if it aids an experience you are currently having.But right now? My right now is good.And your misery can’t change that.And when life is not so good, my reservation may mean, that you do not have the necessary ears.It may mean, I’m…
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Sis, All That Misdirected Energy is Killing Your Dreams
Yes, you have to focus forward.But you also have to spend a minute standing still.Standing still and seeing all the baggage you’re carrying.Still. Stand still.Where is your energy leaking?What are you talking about, thinking about?What are you really running from, when you’re pretending to be running towards something else?Stand still a minute and tidy up.Tidy up your emotional house.Tidy up your legacy of pain.Tidy up your friendships.Your family.Your body.Your fear.All of it.Then move.Move. Move. Move.
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Stop Complaining About Your Marriage, Your Partner, Your Job, Being Broke. It’s Boring
Spare a thought for the friends who always listen to your same problems, over and over again.The problems you’re doing nothing to change.Spare a thought for the friends who constantly give you advice, that you never take.The friends who sit patiently whilst you rehash the same feelings and stories. For months, even years.It may not be fun living the experience. It’s also not fun listening to it, repeatedly, in slow motion.If you don’t have the strength, motivation or resources to change, that’s fine. Just admit it to yourself, and then change the subject.Talk about new problems if necessary.Give them…
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Is This Why You Fear Your Own Darkness?
Why is it you fear the dark so much, the shadows, those things that move on the edge of your peripheral vision? Is it because you expect them to be waiting, to be stronger than you and all the faith you have fostered over the decades? Is it because you imagine yourself to be utterly powerless? Where is your God? Who is it that rules your universe? And why does she have such limited influence over your life? Don’t you know, that fear is the biggest magnet in the universe, second only to love? Will you not sit down with…
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See The Problem. Fix The Problem. Next
Working with me can feel like a rollercoaster. A smooth start, before I ask the one question that tips you over the edge. Then it’s fast, emotionally it’s bumpy and the minute you think you’re done, here comes another unexpected loop to scare the shit out of you.The loop you could only get to by coming this far on the track.The loop that could be bigger or smaller than your first, that one you thought was tough enough.The loop you know you have to go through, because it makes no sense to stop midair.And so you keep going, you cry,…
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The Patterns Working With You Are Teaching You What Needs to Be Healed
Your patterns will show up covered in diamonds, or they will come dressed in rags; whichever is the quickest way for you to recognise them. They will try everything possible to alert you to their presence and until you see them, you will be stuck exactly where you are. It may be one bad relationship after another, one disappointing job after another, one betrayal after another. They will keep returning. You have a deep and binding relationship with your patterns, whether you know it or not. And sometimes, these things holding you back, trying to teach you a lesson –…