Category: Lesson
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How You Act in Chaos is The Key to Your Peace
That person who doesn’t react as you expect them to.Who doesn’t cry when you, or the world, is drowning in tears.Who laughs because the irony and capriciousness of life presents itself again and again and again. In places you do not even know exist.Who weeps at joy instead of pain.Who stands back because they are already closer than you could ever imagine.Don’t judge them too harshly.They have worlds within them that will take you lifetimes to fathom.They have swum canyons of pain, until learning to float.Peace sits in the very centre of their chaos. And yours.They have reached through and…
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Take Your Power Back
Who did you give it to? Who took it from you?What illness, what husband, lover, boss, friend, stranger?How desperately do you want to heal?How consumed are you, with never letting it happen again?How consumed are you with understanding how it happened, at all?Action.Your answers are in action.There are people who stay stuck where you are for years.For decades.Don’t be one of them.
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‘It’s Normal to Feel Anxiety Right Now, Isn’t it?’ Is NOT The Question to Ask Me
Rather ask yourself…Do I WANT to feel anxious?Is my anxiety serving me?Will I accept this anxiety, or work to remove/reduce it?Will I attempt to plan my life, or wait to be told when I’m allowed to?Am I connecting with what’s available OR with what’s helping?Certainty is always an illusion. It’s NOT certainty you need. It’s the power to know that whatever happens, you’ve got this.Clients, you know I’m not about to enable you.You know I’m not about to feed your current state. If I did, I would expect you to fire me.So, my compassion will not be demonstrated by diving…
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Time Doesn’t Heal, it Integrates. And Integration is Not Always Healing
The passing of time does not erase your problems. It may bury them in reactions and patterns that help you to survive from day to day.But it does not heal experience, it integrates it.Rightly or wrongly, negatively or positively.Those experiences you never dealt with are still happening, right here, right now. Time isn’t linear, we simply organise it that way, so it makes sense.But healing doesn’t need to make sense.Healing is in recognising the symptoms that time has integrated and severing the roots perpetuating them.Healing works on the now, because the past is now. It never left.
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Clearing The Past is Not Enough
Pace it forward. Where are the holes? Where are the shadows that will send you straight back to square one? Generational deprogramming, patterns & clarity work, will give you a vast understanding of your behaviours and thoughts. It’s in setting outcomes and looking forwards that you’ll be able to glimpse any shadows still lurking.
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You’re Going to Feel Vulnerable AF and Wonder Why The Hell You Started This
At some point during our session you’re going to feel uncomfortable. Really uncomfortable. You’re going feel vulnerable AF and wonder why the hell you started this, if it’s actually worth it.You’re going to wonder for a split second about the best way to get out of the conversation, then you’ll remember you can’t and that you actually paid for this.Then you’ll probably sigh, look up, and start thinking about how to answer the question.And you’ll do it honestly, openly.You’ll stop caring about what I might think of you, or how surprised you imagine I’m going to be.You’ll push through and…
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Affirmations Are 101. I’m Interested in What The Other Voice is Telling You
Affirmations are the start of a journey. If you don’t already have a muscle of self-affirming inner talk, affirmations may begin to build and strengthen it. For some, it’s as far as you will go. And it may be enough.For those who are willing, ready, you can lay aside the affirmations, the mirror talk, and acknowledge the shadow creating a need for them.You can bring that darkness into the light.For you, concealing truth will not work.Your affirmations will feel like a fine layer of mesh. And you know, it’s not going to hold.Clearing the actual shadow being masked is the…
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Saying ‘No’ is Not Enough
You need to pay attention to the residue that ‘no’ leaves behind in you. Saying ‘no’ and feeling guilty about letting someone down, or hurting someone’s feelings, is not experiencing the full power of your right to say ‘yes’ to yourself.Saying ‘no’ and over compensating, or feeling obliged to ‘make it up to someone’, is not standing in the full power of making decisions that are best for you.Saying ‘no’ and thinking you have, as a consequence, missed out on an opportunity, is denying your intuition the grace to stand firm in its power.It’s not enough to just say no.It’s…
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Fake Positivity is Corrosive to Your Soul
Your fake positivity is killing your soul. Your soul is here to experience life.To experience challenges.The positive and the negative.In fact, the higher you rise, the clearer you see there is no difference.We are created from two. There is duality in all. Pretending your life is a series of happy thoughts and behaviours, is denying your soul the duality it was sent to witness. And conquer.Or not.Pretending that repeating the same affirmation will erase what truly needs healing, is denying your soul a rite of passage. Which is to confront its deepest fears.All of them. Pretending you are fearless, abundant,…
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The Truth is You’ve Been Through Worse. It Just Didn’t Make The News
Some souls are primed for this dark night. Have been for eons.Hold it.Some souls will struggle to stay aligned with the collective.And did so before this.The gift.Some souls will lose their shit.Abandon themselves completely, and become immersed in their human.The journey.Know your soul. Know it.It sits in every decision you have ever made. Everything you have ever felt.
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Detach From Everything. And Then Make a Choice, About What Gets Let Back in
Emotionally, mentally, physically.Master this by learning to see in black and white.Be that person who sees everything in black and white.And then add the colour where it counts.Add the kaleidoscope where it counts, with who and what counts.
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Stop Comparing Yourself to People Who Are Not You
Stop comparing yourself to other people. I know, it’s the most natural thing to do.But guess what, it’s also not the most natural thing to do. There is duality in all things and you can make the choice.When you stop comparing yourself, you take back your power.You stop providing breathing space to shadows and beliefs that tell you you’re not good enough, that you have to learn more, be more.You stop staring at the external.You stop allowing your life force to leak out, as though it doesn’t matter. I spent many years trying to catch up. Trying to catch up…
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Learn Your Rhythms
Since learning my rhythms, only a few years ago, my awareness of self has contained more clarity than ever before.I know when I’m likely to be irritable, angry.I know when I’m likely to be impulsive, maybe buy that thing I don’t need.I know when I’m likely to be extra sensitive, to the world around me.And insensitive, also.I know when anxiety is more likely to take hold.And when it’s best not to interact with particular people, scenarios, groups.Before learning my rhythms, I put my swaying moods, my fluctuations in temperament and needs, down to me being unpredictable, crazy, hard work.But.I know…
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Keep Going, You’re Almost There
Just before your life changes, the universe is going to throw a storm your way. In this moment, either as you see it approach, or as you stand in the midst of it, you have the power to decide whether this is the last gale before your next meteoric rise. You have to decide whether this is a chance to practice the lessons the universe has been providing you with up to now. You have to decide whether you will drop back into old habits and old ways of thinking, or if you will begin anew, as the future self…