Category: Article
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This is Why You Don’t Want to Return to Normal
For over a year the world has been desperate to return to normal. It’s all that has been spoken about, the new normal, the way things were. One of the interesting things is that for most people normal means totally different things and yet it’s now discussed as a collective desire. Whilst it may seem harmless, that obviously ‘normal’ is just a way of saying safe and happy, there is the very real chance that its ambiguity is detrimental to what’s really needed. By pouring your energy into the same pot as those wanting a return to hiding who they…
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4 Ways to Learn From Your Relationship Mistakes
You will be a rare person who’s only ever had one romantic relationship in their life, and even rarer if you’ve had multiple relationships where no mistakes have ever been made. The fact is, mistakes, slip ups, indiscretions, whatever you want to call them, they all happen. We deal with them by learning, moving on and applying the knowledge to new situations we find ourselves in. Here I’ve compiled a list of some top tips for learning from your mistakes, so that in the future it’s only new ones you’re dealing with, and not repeats of the past. Acknowledge what…
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Are You Losing The Competition Against Yourself?
There are many high-flying women out here who believe success revolves around taking one’s place within previously male dominated arenas. That it means getting the same roles, earning the same pay, being afforded the same or better opportunities for growth. With this, the collective advancement of our mindset has been extraordinary, achieving positions now that a few generations ago would have seemed impossible. This is undoubtedly overdue for us, but amidst our progress as a sex, how much are we paying attention to its impact on the individual? How, amongst the triumph stories and inspirational talks, do we stop from…
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Meditation is Not a Destination
Not being able to sit still and quiet the mind is one of the biggest complaints I hear from people new to meditation. Sitting down and closing one’s eyes quickly turns into an open invitation for incessant internal chatter, for reviewing the day, or mentally completing old conversations. As common as it is, it’s helpful to get a personal perspective. For this reason, one of my first questions is has your mind has really gone into sudden overdrive or, are you simply noticing the state it’s in for most of the day? If you want to break down what’s really…
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Here’s Why It’s Time to Disconnect From Other People
There has been a worldwide campaign to demonstrate how we are all in ‘this’ together, how we are all global citizens. We have been told by carefully engineered marketing campaigns that we need to act for one another, keep strangers safe, do our bit, our duty, behave as if we’re sick and stay home. This symbiotic flow of togetherness has been a lifeline for many people, it has literally kept their emotions from caving in and consuming them whole. It has fostered a sense of community, in an otherwise bleak moment of their personal history. And that’s a great thing,…
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Solutions to Anxiety
There is a loop, a spiral that you will find yourself in.Up down.Down up.Only to find yourself back in the same place.Staring at the same future.Stuck, obsessing over the same past.Is it possible to step out/off/away from it?Yes.Yes it is.What have you tried?
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Are They Your Soulmate or Your Earthmate?
It can be difficult sometimes to have an in-depth conversation about relationships without the mention of soulmates. We hear a lot about them, these people with whom we have an inextricable connection, one that can’t be explained through the science or logic that so many of us rely on elsewhere in our lives. There’s a common desire in those of us wanting romantic relationships, to find this mate and become part of a seemingly unshakable union. What we think less about, is the reality of it. The reality that our soulmates, whether friends or lovers, are not always compatible with…
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What We Really Mean, When We Talk About Relationships
There’s nothing in your life that you don’t have a relationship with. I’m not usually one to use double negatives, but in this case it feels necessary. As does clarifying that the word relationship isn’t reserved for people and things you like and love, or even those you personally know or encounter on a daily basis. Put plainly, anything you come into contact with on your life journey, in any shape or form, is a thing you have a relationship to, in varying degrees. If we swap the term relationship and cut it right back to basics, what we’re really concerning ourselves with…
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It’s Not About Your Routine, it’s About Your Energy
Most of us have been conditioned to believe the main formula for success is hard work and commitment. We believe that by being stringent in our daily routines, it inevitably translates to a linear and direct trajectory to the desires we’re attempting to manifest. This thinking is applied to many and varied situations; date nights in our marriages, morning gym sessions, affirmation work, even down-time. On the outside our choices look productive, we’re accomplishing what we’ve told ourselves and others that we would. But what is actually happening, internally? There is a strong chance that some of the…
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Your Intuition is an In-Built Business Strategy, Here is How to Use it
Strategy in large corporations is a necessity, an effective way to ensure teams are clear on the various components of a project. There is an often unquestioned requirement to map the logical route from idea to end product, know exactly why certain actions are being taken and spot any indicators predictive of missed deadlines, negative cost implications or client dissatisfaction. In corporations, second-guessing is built into the framework of how business operates. It’s safe; managers like it, new starters like it, people who enjoy covering their backs take comfort in it. But what if your total reliance on analytics is…
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3 Reasons Your Affirmations Aren’t Working
The affirmations industry is big. Huge. There are people all over the world staring into mirrors, talking to themselves and repeating how marvellous they are, how strong, capable and confident they are. There are millions of pounds being made by promoting this fake it till you make it approach and a very clear consumer hope that if they lie to themselves, loud and often enough, life will gradually get better and may one day even become amazing. There are some for whom this tactic really works, yes, a few words said each and everyday really is all that is keeping…
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Yes, Trauma is a Gateway But You Can’t Take it With You
It’s true that many people experience their own spiritual awakenings in the aftermath of trauma. From a single life-changing incident, to the sudden implosion of a lifetime’s worth, trauma is a recognised gateway into the search for higher meaning. It’s the propelling force for some, to seek the purpose of existence and all manner of obligations that come with it. The irony of using traumatic experiences as catalysts however, is that as much as they crack you open, there’s a certain point on every journey where you have to let them go. It’s akin to bidding farewell to childhood and…
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What Happened To Your Power?
If anything became apparent to me during 2020, it was the sheer dependency the vast majority of human beings have on their physical world. To most this will appear an odd thing to write, of course we depend on our physical world, it’s well, the world. But this superficial understanding of what it means to live and truly thrive, or merely survive, is part of the fallout I witnessed so clearly. I hadn’t realised before, the full extent to which members of society will follow each other over cliff edges, both emotionally and mentally, whilst doing next to zero independent…
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Generational Trauma & Race
There is no one alive who has not felt the vibration of generational trauma within his or her own life. There are many for whom it has been designated a different label, hastily indexed under an alternate category such as awkward behaviour or unfortunate personality trait. As someone who has spent thousands of hours trawling through all manner of symptomatic suffering, with all demographic of people, the connection that our generational ties have to our current lives is undeniable. When the Black Lives Matter protests began earlier this year, I watched as the people around me, of various ethnicities, steadily took up the cause…