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Here’s to the Degenerates, the Wanderers, the Survivors
Here’s to the souls forced to live under cover of darkness, filled with desires they cannot express, overflowing with needs daylight cannot soothe. Here’s to the 3-piece suitors, lunch hours on their knees, heeling to Madame X, travelling hidden and unspoken roads within themselves. Here’s to lives lived in shadows, in defiance of no life lived at all. Here’s to the good, obedient ones, who shred rules to pieces, who launch fireballs of abandon when no one is looking. Here’s to the embers that singe their ground, reminders of who they are, when unjudged and free. Here’s to the addicts,…
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When Healer and Hurt Co-exist
I’m a therapist and I have dark moods. I mean really dark moods. If someone were to walk into my therapy room showing the same disposition with which I am so familiar, I would immediately see red flags. There is no safeguarding muscle that would be satisfied until direct questions had been asked. ‘Are you thinking about harming yourself?’ ‘Who could you contact if things get worse?’ ‘What do you think has triggered you this time?’ Yes, I’m a therapist, and sometimes I too am my own worst enemy. This reflection is not about unprocessed trauma or hormonal imbalances;…
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It’s Not All Talk: How Energy Work Complements Therapy
In parts of the world where basic needs are met and therapeutic support has become less taboo, our understanding of wellness has evolved to acknowledge the mind-body connection. We recognise that good nutrition, regular movement and stress management are essential to mental health. We understand that emotional pain left unexpressed does not simply evaporate but can find its voice in the body. Stress, for example, is fluent in the language of cardiovascular issues, autoimmune disorders and digestive problems.[i] Even grief can be so profound that a body will shut down entirely. This is the intelligence that dances between body and…
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For the practitioners: Do you really need that session?
It’s easy to look for answers to your questions outside yourself, you’re conditioned to do so. In school the focus is largely on what you’re taught by others and what you can remember. You become used to a collective who has an opinion on your behaviour and Iife: teachers, career counsellors, pastoral care. By the time you get to work you’re adept at following the instruction of external authorities; line managers, heads of department, HR. It makes sense then, that when you embark on any kind of self-help or healing journey, one of the first things you’re going to do…
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When You’re Overwhelmed, Seek Land
What a luxury it is, to have one problem at a time. How fortuitous our luck, when a single event or emotion arises, and we have time to witness it in its entirety, to feel its vibrations move through our body, our lives, without distraction. Even as a moment ravages us, and we have the space to plummet into whatever depths necessary, how blessed we are at the base of our pit, to not have the sky entirely concealed, by further wreckage falling after us. Of course, it doesn’t feel anything close to luck, or grace. Grief, pain, abandonment,…
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No, I Won’t Tell You How I Do It
There’s little information in life today that isn’t ultra-accessible or searchable online. We feel entitled to know things, anything, all the time. Beautiful as this thirst for knowledge is, quenching it doesn’t always work out quite so well, especially if the facts are incorrect, or placed into the wrong hands. Within the spiritual community I see knowledge being shared respectfully and carefully, but there are also instances where it’s distributed neglectfully and carelessly; for likes, money or ego. When I began my own journey into spirituality, I was young and had no idea the foundations that I was laying for myself. I…
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Pinned Post: What’s it Like Working With Me?
My coaching practice is built on more than offering you strategies or solutions. I’ve created it as a space for you to feel truly seen, held, and supported. It is the most important gift I can give to you. No one arrives wanting to find a better relationship, or reconnect with who they are, without it requiring a deep journey into the roots of themselves and their challenges. I simply do not offer behavioural change as a stand-alone outcome, and I don’t believe lasting change can occur without an approach that cares for the whole person. We focus on…
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Stop Begging
I recently had an experience with a child who passionately wanted something. He asked me once and I gave my answer, which was a yes, or a maybe, or a later, but definitely not a no. What matters most isn’t my exact answer, but what came after it. There followed, from said child, an onslaught of re-asking about why, when, how. His quest for details, for concrete and measurable information, was relentless. The rapid fire felt close to blowing a circuit in my mind. Being harangued to detail an event which mattered less to me than the present moment, was…
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We Need To Talk About Energy
We discuss energy a lot in the metaphysical community. We want to know the effect of planetary transits or current media agendas. There’s curiosity over whether we’re all having the same experience, and if the outcome will be collective or individual. We question what new waves of lessons and turmoil may be entering or exiting our field and the best way to get grounded or reconnect to the frequency of our purpose. Change is something we’re sensitive to, whether it is ours or not, and we desire resonant answers about what it all means. With this, it can be surprisingly…
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A History Of Exhaustion
Think about the tiredness you’re currently feeling. Tiredness in any form: mental, physical, emotional, spiritual. Think about how it might change, if something new were to exacerbate it. If a misfortune, challenging and weighty, were to bear down like the proverbial straw on one’s back. Now, let’s say you prevail, you enter restoration mode. Perhaps this involves a movie, shopping, reclining in a mid-morning bath. Your recovery routine is practical and satisfying; relief floods your system allowing you to emerge refreshed, ready for the future. Until the next thing happens. Then, how do you feel? Does the…
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Separating Love & Acceptance
I was speaking with a friend about love. I don’t remember the exact context, or how the conversation began, but it had roots in love being the peak experience of life, of it being what helps to turn the world most harmoniously on its axis. We noted that the love must be unconditional, and then we stopped, because what does this even mean? We use the phrase all the time within relationships, but which of us has stopped to really define our own individual understanding? When we talk about love, the type that arrives with conditions and the type…
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How Sensitive Is Your Aura?
For some of us, the ability to tune into our auras or consciously use our intuition is a natural part of life. We’re more sensitive to the energy and intentions moving in and out of our field, more aware of what jars with us in any given moment. Occasionally, this gift is born through trauma, the legacy of one’s survival being dependent on hyper alertness. Other times, our intuition and auric sensitivity is something we have proactively honed, taking the time to rediscover latent and powerful talents. Developing the connection you have to your space will mean different results for…
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A Forgotten Land – Neutrality
Within our society there is a prevailing belief system that some of us follow with near-religious commitment. It’s the belief that positivity is fundamental to emotional stability, that with a positive mental attitude we can overcome, or at very least numb ourselves to, a majority of life’s challenges. When misfortune materialises – a relationship ended, a job lost, an illness discovered – the go-to response toward another person is a mix of empathy and sympathy. We clearly connect with the wider landscape of what emotional or physical loss means, its impact on one’s life and the difficult prospects involved in…
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February Oracle Reading [2024]
Muse on the elements and what they mean to you. Then go wider… expand. The world would have you focus on water, fire, earth, air. But what love have you shared with the minerals? The stones, rocks, pebbles – the ones at your feet daily? They may not have the shine or glint of crystals, may not have the expensive price tag or cult following, but they are the memory, the bones of the earth. When you feel called to ground, look to the ground. When you’re in need of remembrance, reach to them for guidance. In times to forget,…
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The Inbetweeners
There are people in your walk through life, who must stand out. They will appear to you as if by design, fertiliser to be sprinkled onto the soil of your consciousness. They will arrive wild and alone, determined to grow, to flourish in your psyche with or without consent. And they will not fit any discernible way into the world you recognise. They are the working class couple in the resort reserved for the super wealthy. They are the family in the restaurant who sit silently across from you, a quiet and undecipherable force of either peace or rage…
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Relearn How to Motivate Yourself
Always and at all times we are in a state of being motivated. Defined as an enthusiasm, or a reason for doing something, motivation drives us, regardless of whether the outcome is positive or negative. One may be motivated to love a partner unconditionally, or to commit an extreme act of violence against them. Irrespective of the judgements we make on the chosen action, at its root motivation is purely a life force moving through us. If we are feeling emotionally or mentally deflated, there may be a strong motivation to go out with friends to drown our sorrows, or…