The Library
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Pinned Post: What’s it Like Working With Me?
My coaching practice is built on more than offering you strategies or solutions. I’ve created it as a space for you to feel truly seen, held, and supported. It is the most important gift I can give to you. No one arrives wanting to find a better relationship, or reconnect with who they are, without it requiring a deep journey into the roots of themselves and their challenges. I simply do not offer behavioural change as a stand-alone outcome, and I don’t believe lasting change can occur without an approach that cares for the whole person. We focus on…
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Pinned Post: Come Find Me Where I Am (Part I)
This morning, I issued an invitation to the universe, for it to come find me where I am. I am not lost, I am simply here. I have known for a while that my biggest need, right now, is to remain in the present moment. It’s a need to hold a deep awareness, a genuine appreciation, for what is happening within my inner space, now. It has meant removing myself from social media, declining any distractions that come masquerading as entertainment, being clearer with boundaries. What I did today, during my meditation, was acknowledge my need to remove all…
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4 Ways to Learn From Your Relationship Mistakes
You will be a rare person who’s only ever had one romantic relationship in their life, and even rarer if you’ve had multiple relationships where no mistakes have ever been made. The fact is, mistakes, slip ups, indiscretions, whatever you want to call them, they all happen. We deal with them by learning, moving on and applying the knowledge to new situations we find ourselves in. Here I’ve compiled a list of some top tips for learning from your mistakes, so that in the future it’s only new ones you’re dealing with, and not repeats of the past. Acknowledge what…
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This is What is Standing Between Your Inspiration and Your Action
Inspiration. (I’m not good enough. I can’t do it. It’s the wrong time. I’m not ready. I need more training. I don’t have enough information. I don’t have enough support. I can’t do this on my own. I don’t know how. Now doesn’t feel right. I don’t want to upset her. He won’t survive without me. I don’t have enough money. It’s too expensive. I don’t have to rush. I don’t want to hurt them. It won’t work. It didn’t work last time. I’ve done enough.) Action. Stop making all that shit in the middle the end…
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Meditation is Not a Destination
Not being able to sit still and quiet the mind is one of the biggest complaints I hear from people new to meditation. Sitting down and closing one’s eyes quickly turns into an open invitation for incessant internal chatter, for reviewing the day, or mentally completing old conversations. As common as it is, it’s helpful to get a personal perspective. For this reason, one of my first questions is has your mind has really gone into sudden overdrive or, are you simply noticing the state it’s in for most of the day? If you want to break down what’s really…
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Fear is Not Action. Do Something
Love to all the people participating in global meditations, group healings, positive heart based prayer, energy work, comedy, acts of service in the community, empowerment coaching, online breakthrough therapies, body movement, positive posting, self healing, future visualising, heart based caring, news OFF heart and mind ON living. When your fear is bigger than your positive action you affect the entire world. When your positive action is bigger than your fear, you help save everything that is meant to be saved. You are filled with immense power. Power that extends beyond reposting the words ‘stay home’. Power that extends beyond waiting…
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Don’t Feel Compelled to Match Misery with Misery
It’s not that I have nothing to say. It’s just that your entire conversation is based on misery.I don’t have anything to add to that.And in your current state, you have no capacity to hold my light.Will I share my past with you? Yes, as a cautionary tale. Yes, if I think you’re ready to hold it. Yes, if it aids an experience you are currently having.But right now? My right now is good.And your misery can’t change that.And when life is not so good, my reservation may mean, that you do not have the necessary ears.It may mean, I’m…
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Sis, All That Misdirected Energy is Killing Your Dreams
Yes, you have to focus forward.But you also have to spend a minute standing still.Standing still and seeing all the baggage you’re carrying.Still. Stand still.Where is your energy leaking?What are you talking about, thinking about?What are you really running from, when you’re pretending to be running towards something else?Stand still a minute and tidy up.Tidy up your emotional house.Tidy up your legacy of pain.Tidy up your friendships.Your family.Your body.Your fear.All of it.Then move.Move. Move. Move.
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Here’s Why It’s Time to Disconnect From Other People
There has been a worldwide campaign to demonstrate how we are all in ‘this’ together, how we are all global citizens. We have been told by carefully engineered marketing campaigns that we need to act for one another, keep strangers safe, do our bit, our duty, behave as if we’re sick and stay home. This symbiotic flow of togetherness has been a lifeline for many people, it has literally kept their emotions from caving in and consuming them whole. It has fostered a sense of community, in an otherwise bleak moment of their personal history. And that’s a great thing,…
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Is This Why You Fear Your Own Darkness?
Why is it you fear the dark so much, the shadows, those things that move on the edge of your peripheral vision? Is it because you expect them to be waiting, to be stronger than you and all the faith you have fostered over the decades? Is it because you imagine yourself to be utterly powerless? Where is your God? Who is it that rules your universe? And why does she have such limited influence over your life? Don’t you know, that fear is the biggest magnet in the universe, second only to love? Will you not sit down with…
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Stop Complaining About Your Marriage, Your Partner, Your Job, Being Broke. It’s Boring
Spare a thought for the friends who always listen to your same problems, over and over again.The problems you’re doing nothing to change.Spare a thought for the friends who constantly give you advice, that you never take.The friends who sit patiently whilst you rehash the same feelings and stories. For months, even years.It may not be fun living the experience. It’s also not fun listening to it, repeatedly, in slow motion.If you don’t have the strength, motivation or resources to change, that’s fine. Just admit it to yourself, and then change the subject.Talk about new problems if necessary.Give them…
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Solutions to Anxiety
There is a loop, a spiral that you will find yourself in.Up down.Down up.Only to find yourself back in the same place.Staring at the same future.Stuck, obsessing over the same past.Is it possible to step out/off/away from it?Yes.Yes it is.What have you tried?