The Library
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Pinned Post: What’s it Like Working With Me?
My coaching practice is built on more than offering you strategies or solutions. I’ve created it as a space for you to feel truly seen, held, and supported. It is the most important gift I can give to you. No one arrives wanting to find a better relationship, or reconnect with who they are, without it requiring a deep journey into the roots of themselves and their challenges. I simply do not offer behavioural change as a stand-alone outcome, and I don’t believe lasting change can occur without an approach that cares for the whole person. We focus on…
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Pinned Post: Come Find Me Where I Am (Part I)
This morning, I issued an invitation to the universe, for it to come find me where I am. I am not lost, I am simply here. I have known for a while that my biggest need, right now, is to remain in the present moment. It’s a need to hold a deep awareness, a genuine appreciation, for what is happening within my inner space, now. It has meant removing myself from social media, declining any distractions that come masquerading as entertainment, being clearer with boundaries. What I did today, during my meditation, was acknowledge my need to remove all…
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Your Relationship May Not Survive Me
Some relationships will simply not survive working with me; they’re not built to withstand the brutality of their own truths. These are the relationships you have with mothers, fathers, friends, children, lovers, spouses, colleagues. They are your relationships with institutions, pets and even, with your former, present and future selves. There is something that you should know, before you ask for help and it doesn’t even matter whom you’re asking. That something is this; The right advice, even if it leads you to despair and suffering, may still be the right advice. The wrong advice, even if it appears…
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Found: David Simmonds, Tuesday 6:35am
He awoke that morning and believed it to be like any other. Placing his feet flat on the floor beside his bed, he put down the phone he had already surveyed for fresh news. Nowhere in his conscious mind was he aware how life changing today would be. Nowhere in his body could he feel the earth ready to fall from under him, like so many dreams he once carried as a child. And yet, that is how it goes. This, so often, is how the moment arrives. One awakens on a day that presents like any other, only to…
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The Gift of Real Magic
I never knew much about magic until a few years ago. There was always a calling toward it, an attraction that felt mutual, yet neither it nor myself were prepared to meet the other half way. So magic circled my existence whilst I settled with making birthday cake wishes and vision boards, in order to manifest my desires. My journey into it was made longer, I’m sure, due to the fact I wasn’t motivated enough to dive in, knowing how deeply I wanted to swim and the dedication it might require. It wasn’t tricks or sleight of hand that…
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Your Fear is Food For The Worst Kind of Animal
There is a beast that entered this world long before any of us; when starved it remains only dormant and yet when fed, its growth is exponential. It is soundless and invisible to untrained ears or eyes and simultaneously, felt so deeply that no unmastered sense can truly function in its presence. On the rare occasion I meet with others for whom its existence is clear, there is a sigh of relief. There is the unmistakable soul-nod to how sweet life is, in this viewing gallery of awareness. Here, our foundation of certainty is not so easily shaken. Here, we…
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On Men; Reconnecting Mind and Body
There’s a key piece of information you should have been taught as a young boy; a fact that once adopted, can vastly change the course of your relationship to the entire world around you. This is where I want to begin. I want to start not with a denial of your right to ask for help, a denial of your needs as compared to another gender, race or economic status. The place we instead kick-off from is the knowledge that all feelings held within your body and your mind, are valid. They are valid in that they reveal parts…
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Perception, Crossed Wires, Lost Friendships
I had an interesting experience today. I met with a man whom I had come to know through a mutual friend; I’ll call her Lucy for the sake of this story. I knew very little about the history of their friendship but was intrigued as to how they met. What I unexpectedly found out was that they no longer speak, that James and Lucy have gently parted ways and he at least was comfortable with the new distance between them. Without prompting, he revealed what had happened to end the friendship. And whether he was justifying the demise of it…
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We Are More Than What Separates Us
One of the biggest insults | crimes | untruths leaked into the human race is the illusion of separation. The belief that we are separate from each other to various and solid degrees; gender, skin, emotion, thought. These useful and convenient layers we use to identify ourselves will make life more manageable, only until we forget they are only layers, not a summation of who we are. Imagine believing the clothes you have on are what define you. Imagine believing they make you better or different from someone else. Maybe you don’t need to imagine so much, maybe it is more…
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Pinned Post: What is Emotional Mastery?
Emotional mastery is about more than control and it has nothing to do with perfection. Emotional mastery is about observation and conscious decision making. It’s about seeing the choices that show up in your reality; in the split second before stress does, in the moment before disharmony is expressed through an argument in your relationship, in the fraction of time before you reach for the drink, the drugs, the man/woman. Emotional mastery is primarily about a self awareness so potent, you cannot help but see the alternative choices in each state you find yourself. It is about learning to act from…
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A Brave CEO is a Vulnerable CEO
There are moments that regularly arise in life, when the only two options we have are bravery or familiarity. These moments show up more often than we likely acknowledge, from the adventurous decision to swap our usual dish in our favourite restaurant, to the more impactful one of quitting the job that is slowly strangling our soul. Many pursuits of bravery we are willingly coerced into; we seek them out and are highly receptive to the list of reasons why *insert your desire here* is important, useful, necessary. We present with a show of reticence, but what we want is…
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Sometimes, Being Powerful Looks Like You’re Doing Nothing
I have a varied friends circle, I wouldn’t call it large but yes, it’s definitely wide and diverse in a lot of ways. The folks I hang out with have different faiths, beliefs, ethnicities, economic backgrounds, education levels and marriage statuses. They work in multiple industries, anywhere from teacher, exotic dancer, lawyer, barmaid, right across to retired or unemployed. What’s great is that whilst there are similarities, no two are the same and each unique soul in turn, allows for very particular parts of my own identity to emerge. Over the past year however, I’ve noticed something peculiar happen with…