Author: Tori
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Dancing With Your Patterns
Instead of viewing patterns as unchanging reactions that have us careening from one disaster to the next, it’s helpful to see them as multi-faceted parts of ourselves. Ones that are in constant vibration, willing either to be left on course or interrupted. Imagine, if you will, yourself as the grand ballroom in which various parts
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Healing Fatigue
When we are in the infancy of our self-help journeys, the declarations we make to end all our unhelpful patterns will usually spark apprehension. Suddenly, the fear of how these cyclical habits within us might respond when called out is very tangible. We feel their discomfort at potentially being challenged by us, their host, as awareness readies
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How Do I Cope, With The Things I hear?
I am sometimes asked what my own coping mechanisms are and how it feels to be surrounded by so much suffering, to spend sessions listening to distress and sorrow, to see and hear people at the worst lows of life. When I shrug and say it doesn’t affect me, or that I am used to
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“Give Me A Minute To Compose Myself.”
Where did we learn, that it is necessary to compose ourselves, to pull together the framework of a calm self that others are expecting to see? If we aim to have honest hearts, what stops us from speaking truer sentences, from stating our desires more accurately? Give me a minute, to repress everything I
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Meet Sandra
Her name was Sandra and there is really only a single way to describe her movement through life. If I had to name it; I mean if I had to put a finger to it, match it to my frame of reference and then commit, it would be to say that she was aggressively indisposed. Yes,
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Start Asking Yourself The Right Questions
There is too much emphasis, in this realm, that is placed on certainty. Everyone wants to be sure they are doing the right thing; they want to be sure they are making the right decisions, that they have covered all possible scenarios of outcome. And even once they have used logic, emotion and intuition to
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Your Relationship May Not Survive Me
Some relationships will simply not survive working with me; they’re not built to withstand the brutality of their own truths. These are the relationships you have with mothers, fathers, friends, children, lovers, spouses, colleagues. They are your relationships with institutions, pets and even, with your former, present and future selves. There is something that
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Found: David Simmonds, Tuesday 6:35am
He awoke that morning and believed it to be like any other. Placing his feet flat on the floor beside his bed, he put down the phone he had already surveyed for fresh news. Nowhere in his conscious mind was he aware how life changing today would be. Nowhere in his body could he feel
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The Gift of Real Magic
I never knew much about magic until a few years ago. There was always a calling toward it, an attraction that felt mutual, yet neither it nor myself were prepared to meet the other half way. So magic circled my existence whilst I settled with making birthday cake wishes and vision boards, in order to
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Your Fear is Food For The Worst Kind of Animal
There is a beast that entered this world long before any of us; when starved it remains only dormant and yet when fed, its growth is exponential. It is soundless and invisible to untrained ears or eyes and simultaneously, felt so deeply that no unmastered sense can truly function in its presence. On the rare
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On Men; Reconnecting Mind and Body
There’s a key piece of information you should have been taught as a young boy; a fact that once adopted, can vastly change the course of your relationship to the entire world around you. This is where I want to begin. I want to start not with a denial of your right to ask
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Perception, Crossed Wires, Lost Friendships
I had an interesting experience today. I met with a man whom I had come to know through a mutual friend; I’ll call her Lucy for the sake of this story. I knew very little about the history of their friendship but was intrigued as to how they met. What I unexpectedly found out was
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We Are More Than What Separates Us
One of the biggest insults | crimes | untruths leaked into the human race is the illusion of separation. The belief that we are separate from each other to various and solid degrees; gender, skin, emotion, thought. These useful and convenient layers we use to identify ourselves will make life more manageable, only until we
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Pinned Post: What is Emotional Mastery?
Emotional mastery is about more than control and it has nothing to do with perfection. Emotional mastery is about observation and conscious decision making. It’s about seeing the choices that show up in your reality; in the split second before stress does, in the moment before disharmony is expressed through an argument in your relationship,
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A Brave CEO is a Vulnerable CEO
There are moments that regularly arise in life, when the only two options we have are bravery or familiarity. These moments show up more often than we likely acknowledge, from the adventurous decision to swap our usual dish in our favourite restaurant, to the more impactful one of quitting the job that is slowly strangling
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Sometimes, Being Powerful Looks Like You’re Doing Nothing
I have a varied friends circle, I wouldn’t call it large but yes, it’s definitely wide and diverse in a lot of ways. The folks I hang out with have different faiths, beliefs, ethnicities, economic backgrounds, education levels and marriage statuses. They work in multiple industries, anywhere from teacher, exotic dancer, lawyer, barmaid, right across