The Library
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Pinned Post: What’s it Like Working With Me?
My coaching practice is built on more than offering you strategies or solutions. I’ve created it as a space for you to feel truly seen, held, and supported. It is the most important gift I can give to you. No one arrives wanting to find a better relationship, or reconnect with who they are, without it requiring a deep journey into the roots of themselves and their challenges. I simply do not offer behavioural change as a stand-alone outcome, and I don’t believe lasting change can occur without an approach that cares for the whole person. We focus on…
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Pinned Post: Come Find Me Where I Am (Part I)
This morning, I issued an invitation to the universe, for it to come find me where I am. I am not lost, I am simply here. I have known for a while that my biggest need, right now, is to remain in the present moment. It’s a need to hold a deep awareness, a genuine appreciation, for what is happening within my inner space, now. It has meant removing myself from social media, declining any distractions that come masquerading as entertainment, being clearer with boundaries. What I did today, during my meditation, was acknowledge my need to remove all…
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January Oracle Reading [2023]
This is going to be a month requiring ‘grassroots’ change. This isn’t about starting a new workout regime or healthy eating plan; it’s about listening to the core rhythms within yourself and acting in alignment with them. There will be obvious moments when you must consciously decide between the easy option and the one that’s in-keeping with your gut and your standards. It’s time for you to become choice-aware, to actively see them and to make them. This requires a strength void of victim mentality. It means you’ll go against the grain, that you may experience discomfort, but it’s time…
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Dancing With Your Patterns
Instead of viewing patterns as unchanging reactions that have us careening from one disaster to the next, it’s helpful to see them as multi-faceted parts of ourselves. Ones that are in constant vibration, willing either to be left on course or interrupted. Imagine, if you will, yourself as the grand ballroom in which various parts of you dance. The choreography is created here, parts of you are moving to inner rhythms of experience; your own, your grandmother’s, your father’s. Some parts move wildly, freely, others seek always the perfect partner, feeling, pitch. Our patterns are dance partners we are courting,…
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Healing Fatigue
When we are in the infancy of our self-help journeys, the declarations we make to end all our unhelpful patterns will usually spark apprehension. Suddenly, the fear of how these cyclical habits within us might respond when called out is very tangible. We feel their discomfort at potentially being challenged by us, their host, as awareness readies us to reclaim our power. The further down this road of self-knowledge we go and the more layers of healing we uncover, one might wrongly assume that changes occur like falling dominos. The reality is that a fatigue sometimes, and often does, set in instead. To…
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How Do I Cope, With The Things I hear?
I am sometimes asked what my own coping mechanisms are and how it feels to be surrounded by so much suffering, to spend sessions listening to distress and sorrow, to see and hear people at the worst lows of life. When I shrug and say it doesn’t affect me, or that I am used to it, I understand I could appear as somewhat apathetic. I am fully aware that my composure and ease with the topic may, to an outsider, imply that I am proficient in switching off or that I have become desensitised to the suffering of others. This…
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“Give Me A Minute To Compose Myself.”
Where did we learn, that it is necessary to compose ourselves, to pull together the framework of a calm self that others are expecting to see? If we aim to have honest hearts, what stops us from speaking truer sentences, from stating our desires more accurately? Give me a minute, to repress everything I am naturally feeling in this moment, is what we really mean, everything my body needs to move from the inside outward. Please, would you just wait a couple of seconds, to allow me enough time to hide, to shield, to summon all the boundaries needed,…
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Meet Sandra
Her name was Sandra and there is really only a single way to describe her movement through life. If I had to name it; I mean if I had to put a finger to it, match it to my frame of reference and then commit, it would be to say that she was aggressively indisposed. Yes, that she courted illness as a confidant; an ally doubling as a weapon, aimed toward anyone attempting familiarity with her. You see, she was beautiful. Not beautiful in the sense of ethereal captured in marble, or the boldness of old Hollywood glamour. She was soul…
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Start Asking Yourself The Right Questions
There is too much emphasis, in this realm, that is placed on certainty. Everyone wants to be sure they are doing the right thing; they want to be sure they are making the right decisions, that they have covered all possible scenarios of outcome. And even once they have used logic, emotion and intuition to its fullest extent, the question still remains, but am I sure? Here is a better question: Is it worth the risk? Here is an even better question: Will I survive and be able to cope, if the worst possible outcome occurs? There are no complications…
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Your Relationship May Not Survive Me
Some relationships will simply not survive working with me; they’re not built to withstand the brutality of their own truths. These are the relationships you have with mothers, fathers, friends, children, lovers, spouses, colleagues. They are your relationships with institutions, pets and even, with your former, present and future selves. There is something that you should know, before you ask for help and it doesn’t even matter whom you’re asking. That something is this; The right advice, even if it leads you to despair and suffering, may still be the right advice. The wrong advice, even if it appears…
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Found: David Simmonds, Tuesday 6:35am
He awoke that morning and believed it to be like any other. Placing his feet flat on the floor beside his bed, he put down the phone he had already surveyed for fresh news. Nowhere in his conscious mind was he aware how life changing today would be. Nowhere in his body could he feel the earth ready to fall from under him, like so many dreams he once carried as a child. And yet, that is how it goes. This, so often, is how the moment arrives. One awakens on a day that presents like any other, only to…
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The Gift of Real Magic
I never knew much about magic until a few years ago. There was always a calling toward it, an attraction that felt mutual, yet neither it nor myself were prepared to meet the other half way. So magic circled my existence whilst I settled with making birthday cake wishes and vision boards, in order to manifest my desires. My journey into it was made longer, I’m sure, due to the fact I wasn’t motivated enough to dive in, knowing how deeply I wanted to swim and the dedication it might require. It wasn’t tricks or sleight of hand that…